Dear Mary-anne. Bad acne is ruining my son's confidence, how can I help him?

QUESTION: 

When my son turned 14, he developed really bad acne.It sort of arrived on his birthday and, a year later, it’s still here. We’ve tried all sorts of potions, both natural and chemical. I’ve taken him to our GP and he put him on a big dose of antibiotics.I know there are other heavy-duty drugs that could alter my son’s mood, but he didn’t want that.I was quite proud of him for making that decision, but it seems his mood is altering anyway. The antibiotics don’t seem to be working. He admitted that lockdown was his favourite time and now that it’s ended, he’s not going out at all and is becoming more and more withdrawn.

ANSWER: 

Your son’s mental well-being is as important as his physical well-being. His withdrawal from his social life could definitely be connected to his acne, but it’s best not to assume anything. I say this, because teenagers I know have commented that their acne seemed to upset their parents more than it did themselves. So, ask your son first if he wants more help trialling other remedies and, if so, you might be best to start back with your GP.

You should be looking for a holistic approach that considers his diet, gut health, skin and his moods. It would be good if you’re in on the plan, even if you’re not part of the whole consultation. If your son won’t discuss his mood and social withdrawal, then a suggestion is that you email the GP in advance.

You need a health professional you trust, who communicates well with your son and who listens to you both. You could also enquire about taking your son to a dietician.

If you’re not happy with the advice you’re given, or you’re living in a small area with limited options, then arrange an appointment in a bigger centre. Be guided by your concern for your son’s mental health and general confidence. Remember too – you can go straight to a dermatologist without a referral.

I don’t suggest anyone use Facebook as their GP, but I do see benefits in being part of a parenting chat group where you’re able to ask what other mothers have done in similar circumstances.

One question about dealing with teenage acne might elicit something like 80 answers, but out of that, it’s possible you’ll glean useful advice that sets you on the path to solving this problem.